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Sep 27
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Living in a Dream World

I read this post last week on Mnmlst about fantasies and it really hit home. I’m a huge self-proclaimed daydreamer. I fantasize about future career options, new handbags and jewelry, going to the MET Gala, living out of the country, and what it would be like to eat at Per Se.

While daydreaming can be healthy and help produce some motivation to reach your goals, part of me wonders if my daydreaming has also become dangerous. We’re constantly sold on how life should be , how we should look, what we should eat, and how we should dress.  The point Mnmlst makes is apt, we are being sold fantasies.  Having an Iphone is not going to make you cooler, your life seamelessly organized, or your status more important.

An important point in my life is when my mom called me out for shopping too much.  She told me I was searching for something that I would never find. I joked with her that she obviously never met the internet, but I knew what she was saying. My actions took a turn at that point.

I now realize that a new Givenchy bag, that impractical clutch, or Alexander Wang heels won’t improve my life. Maybe, if I’m super lucky, I’ll get shot by a street style photographer. Is that going to catapult me into fame, wealth, and notoreity? In my daydreams, probably. In real life, no way.

I’m not trying to lecture, only merely pose a question for introspection.  Why do you really want that new skirt, watch, or gadget? Is there some hidden desire behind it?

Do you also live in Fantasyland?

  • http://thebrowsingbrunette.com amber

    I did for a long time, I am slowly coming out of it! But in my opinion a little daydreaming never hurt anybody!

    • Lindsay

      I don’t think daydreaming can necessarily hurt, but I think it can cause lust, which in overabundance can become a problem. Like everything, moderation is good!

  • Rachel

    When I shop now, it’s for a purpose. I’ve become so selective that I don’t tend to end up with buyer’s remorse or with things I don’t need. It’s usually the opposite. I won’t accept something that I don’t LOVE. Since I’m now old enough to have seen, owned, and experienced so much it’s really hard to rouse me from my jaded shopping experience and my closet therefore runs on perilously low conditions. Fantasy land for me is still very real but it rarely involves shopping any more. Instead, I’m a menace as I drive down the road daydreaming about designing my modern interpretation of a 1950′s dress. :)

    • Lindsay

      I’m totally with you, Rach! I shop with purpose and I have no space for excess, mostly for budgetary reasons. I still keep a wishlist for special pieces each season but I rarely ever go back and buy them.

  • http://www.comingunstitched.com Sarah

    I definitely fantasize way too much- but I also think it can be a good thing. That I’m constantly reaching and working towards goals. I might never reach some of my fantasies, but I can tell you that I’ll never stop trying!

    • Lindsay

      Yeah, I think that’s healthy. I believe daydreaming can help keep you trying for your goals, but sometimes it can be bad if you just want things to fulfill a void in your life, not in your closet.

  • http://itsawant.com/ Lee Anne

    I fantasize every time I create a new post for my shopping blog- http://itsawant.com/ but I also keep in mind what is a fantasy and what is real life:) Pinterest is a major fantasy maker!! Good post :)

    • Lindsay

      Yeah, pinterest gets me in trouble. I think it’s good to have wishlists, but it’s interesting to think about how much is too much?

  • Paige :: Approaching Joy

    I’m with Sarah. I “dream” about my future goals but really it’s just a mental to-do list where I fill in details in my mind (I’m rocking an awesome dress, my nails aren’t chipped, & nothing is stuck in my teeth). Sure it’s a fantasy but it allows me a mental “break” when I feel like I’m working non stop.

    • Lindsay

      I like this way of thinking! I completely understand how it can be a nice respite from the work grind. Good priorities!

  • http://glamslamblog.com Glam Slam!

    A very insightful post and great conversation topic. I am a true believer in “dream big or go home”. HOWEVER, I do agree that doing it in moderation is smart. Never stop dreaming, but when it comes to achieving those dreams, do it the smart way and think of how you can achieve it in the “real world” that we live in. This is something I’ve had to learn the hard way in life.

    I totally agree with your point, BUT, never stop dreaming girl! ;)

    xoxo, Stephanie :)

    • Lindsay

      I agree that you should never stop dreaming. The real world is tough, but a little spark of motivation is all we need!